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Friendship & maturity

In a few months, I learnt something very interesting. I learnt that friendship is not constant, but relative; relative in the sense it changes according to the situation, emotions and the decisions taken. I believed, like all sanguine youth, that friendship, like love, is forever and unchanging. Well, it seems on the path to maturity, you tend to step on a few stones thinking they are stepping stones and inevitably fall. It doesn't matter if you are hurt, it just matters that you misjudged.
Coming to maturity, I think I have failed to understand it, let alone gain it. Does maturity mean accepting something they do not feel, as true? Let me be clearer with a simple example. When you love someone deeply, can leaving that person, knowing that its very difficult, be maturity? My question is, is accepting practicality a sign of maturity? What about accepting what you truly feel, what is nearer to your heart?

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  1. UnknownMarch 18, 2010 at 1:36 PM

    There are no permanent friends or permanent enemies but there are only permanent interests! True friends are those who overlook your failures & can tolerate your success.But you rarely get true friends....
    Maturity is behaving sensibly in a given situation rather than getting carried away emotionally(Using your brains & following your heart simultaneously rather than using only ur brain or just following ur heart blindly)If I take your example,if u love a person deeply there must be a very strong reason for leaving the person you love;Otherwise why would you take such an extreme step? Maturity is understanding the fact that u love that person but you cant have that person!

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  2. Snippet ThoughtsMarch 18, 2010 at 1:42 PM

    Very nicely said about permanent interests. And you are completely right about maturity. Thank you.

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  3. shankarJune 10, 2010 at 11:13 PM

    really good

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  4. WhoAmI?June 13, 2010 at 6:07 PM

    hmm ... it seems to be all about relationships! here's my realization ...

    ..we're gifted with relationships to help us evolve experientially - parents, siblings, friends, teachers, colleagues, lovers, children et al to care for our physical, emotional, intellectual being.

    But then, the 'other' in each of our relationships is also a still-evolving-human-in-the-same-wretched-world right? Evolving is to develop awareness of how/what/why of each relationship, albeit post-facto ...

    Ever wondered what's in oneself that's evolving, which must be something unassailable by all that's wrong with relationships? That's the supreme spirit of humanity & God within - that continuously seeks love & peace in everything we could relate to - not just humans, everything beautiful ...

    To mature fully is to become aware of that God within and the power of Loving & giving, which will never fail you in any relationship!

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