In a few months, I learnt something very interesting. I learnt that friendship is not constant, but relative; relative in the sense it changes according to the situation, emotions and the decisions taken. I believed, like all sanguine youth, that friendship, like love, is forever and unchanging. Well, it seems on the path to maturity, you tend to step on a few stones thinking they are stepping stones and inevitably fall. It doesn't matter if you are hurt, it just matters that you misjudged.
Coming to maturity, I think I have failed to understand it, let alone gain it. Does maturity mean accepting something they do not feel, as true? Let me be clearer with a simple example. When you love someone deeply, can leaving that person, knowing that its very difficult, be maturity? My question is, is accepting practicality a sign of maturity? What about accepting what you truly feel, what is nearer to your heart?
Coming to maturity, I think I have failed to understand it, let alone gain it. Does maturity mean accepting something they do not feel, as true? Let me be clearer with a simple example. When you love someone deeply, can leaving that person, knowing that its very difficult, be maturity? My question is, is accepting practicality a sign of maturity? What about accepting what you truly feel, what is nearer to your heart?
There are no permanent friends or permanent enemies but there are only permanent interests! True friends are those who overlook your failures & can tolerate your success.But you rarely get true friends....
ReplyDeleteMaturity is behaving sensibly in a given situation rather than getting carried away emotionally(Using your brains & following your heart simultaneously rather than using only ur brain or just following ur heart blindly)If I take your example,if u love a person deeply there must be a very strong reason for leaving the person you love;Otherwise why would you take such an extreme step? Maturity is understanding the fact that u love that person but you cant have that person!
Very nicely said about permanent interests. And you are completely right about maturity. Thank you.
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ReplyDeletehmm ... it seems to be all about relationships! here's my realization ...
ReplyDelete..we're gifted with relationships to help us evolve experientially - parents, siblings, friends, teachers, colleagues, lovers, children et al to care for our physical, emotional, intellectual being.
But then, the 'other' in each of our relationships is also a still-evolving-human-in-the-same-wretched-world right? Evolving is to develop awareness of how/what/why of each relationship, albeit post-facto ...
Ever wondered what's in oneself that's evolving, which must be something unassailable by all that's wrong with relationships? That's the supreme spirit of humanity & God within - that continuously seeks love & peace in everything we could relate to - not just humans, everything beautiful ...
To mature fully is to become aware of that God within and the power of Loving & giving, which will never fail you in any relationship!